The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 3:48 PM on Wednesday, March 11th, 2026
My dad was a serial cheater I grow up in a household where I wished my mom would of left my dad. She didn’t until I was mid twenties.
This says volumes.
[This message edited by The1stWife at 3:49 PM, Wednesday, March 11th]
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
Jambomo ( member #74853) posted at 7:26 PM on Saturday, March 21st, 2026
I just feel so stuck, I have glimpses of happiness and think okay we could try to make this work and last year I would of put my all in to it.
Missmee, I know this is hard but you need to realise this is no longer just about his infidelity. He is an abusive man and you are in an abusive relationship. You should never try to reconcile with someone who abuses you.
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Missmee (original poster member #86349) posted at 10:47 PM on Monday, March 23rd, 2026
My thinking is more clearer. I can’t believe what he did I can’t believe what he put me through and I can’t believe I allowed it. He has agreed to move out he’s going to stay with family.
Edited - He seems to think I’m going to forgive him and get over this. But I know I won’t
[This message edited by Missmee at 1:38 AM, Tuesday, March 24th]
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 12:10 AM on Tuesday, March 24th, 2026
HI MISSME.
Sorry to hear things are at this stage, but you may find clarity with him out of the house. Hang in there.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Missmee (original poster member #86349) posted at 3:12 PM on Tuesday, March 24th, 2026
I’m plodding on, it’s coming up to a year where I didn’t yet know what was happening just that the relationship was falling apart but couldn’t figure out why. I thought he was struggling with his mental health as he was going through bereavement.
So a year ago this weekend one of the nights we had an argument I asked him to leave I thought he had stayed at his nephews but he went to stay with her, for the first time. I’ve recently found this out. But makes sense now why last Mother’s Day he went over the top with a gift! I think this year is going to be hard with all the dates. I’m trying not to look back and think omg he was doing this on this date etc…
Didn’t realise the extent and destruction betrayal causes from mentally to physically it’s horrendous.
